Compatibility is shared values, morals and common beliefs. When two people have high compatibility it means they share similarities in their lifestyle choices and principles. Chemistry, on the other hand, is the emotional and sexual connection you have with someone. It is the butterflies in your stomach, heart beating fast, weak in the knees and feeling like you're on cloud 9 when in the presence of that person. It is when you simply "click", but you cannot really explain why you feel the way you do.
A relationship with compatibility but lacking chemistry
Compatibility and chemistry, unfortunately, do not always occur together. You can meet someone who has all the qualities you could ever want in a partner and yet there is no sparks, no fireworks, nothing that makes you want to rip their clothes off. A relationship with high compatibility but little chemistry will most likely be a boring yet convenient encounter. If you are in a relationship of this kind – be mindful not to fall into the role of being each other's "roommates". Although there is a lack of chemistry – this does not mean you allow the relationship to end up becoming platonic.
A relationship with chemistry but high incompatibility
Chemistry without compatibility, however, can lead to a disaster. It is the kind of relationship when it feels so right, but you know it's so wrong. When there is a very strong emotional as well as sexual connection – logic and reality can go out the window very fast. This type of relationship usually begins very quickly with a lot of passion but doesn't last for very long. It is difficult to ignore a strong chemistry, however, when forever is what you are aiming for – you are going to be needing a lot more than just sparks and attraction.
When a relationship has both chemistry and compatibility
When you put both chemistry and compatibility together, say hello to a happy, satisfying, earth-shattering, mind-blowing yet secure and consistent relationship. Who doesn't want to be with someone that you can consider as your best friend as well as your lover? If this is what you find in your relationship, then consider yourself lucky and keep the sparks alive! Continue to have date nights, show affection in any way you can and take care of your physique. Chemistry acts as the igniter, but it needs constant effort on both sides to keep the flames going – it cannot last on its own.
