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We can understand how being single while everyone around you are in pairs can make you feel so down in the dumps. We get that it might make you feel unloved or unwanted, and we can tell you, right off the bat, that it's a perfectly normal reaction. Perfectly normal. You might even feel like no one cares and that loneliness can trigger some pretty negative thoughts.
Don't get sucked into that. Because we know, and you know, that singlehood isn't about pickiness or selfishness, it's really about time. Maybe you just haven't met "the one". Maybe he just hasn't crossed your path. Maybe. We hope and pray that you will soon meet "the one" who loves you will all his heart. However, to wait for him to show up at your doorstep doesn't mean that you can't do anything in the meantime. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, there are actually two things you can do and that is to build healthy relationships and to enhance yourself.
First, build healthy relationships. We are social beings and our relationships defines our existence. We thrive as we belong in communities. And every relationship we have can affect our lives. The right kinds of relationship will lead us in the right way. So, as you wait, look around. Are you happy with the relationships you have in your life today? Do you think that if "the one" were to show up from those relationship that you would be happy with it?
Second, enhance yourself. Have you ever heard of the saying that "like attracts like"? We tend to attract and be attracted to the people who share our values in life and who does things like we do. As you wait, take a good look at yourself. Would you be happy if you met someone like you? Would you be attracted to you? If you want to be with someone who is positive and caring, you must first be positive and caring yourself. Focus on being great, reach your dreams, be successful… and before you know it, you might find someone like you who will love you just as you are.
If you forget everything we just said, just remember this: your worth is never defined by your status. Single or taken, you are still loved and wanted. You can still be single and loved and wanted. A committed relationship does not define your worth. Show yourself some love every day and you will always be loved, because a healthy relationship begins with loving yourself first anyway.
You're not alone, you're just lonely
You probably didn't realize that actually you're shut yourself from others and live in your own isolated world. You never really alone, right? Look at everyone around you. They're presence in your life but you're the one who keep absence in their life. Thus all you need to do is to be more involved in their lives. Be present and you'll never feel lonely anymore. Stop taking them for granted, show them your love and embrace their love for you. Get out of your tiny box and be with your family and friends, they are actually your home to come to.
You let yourself go
You're on your own and you don't seem to care on many things including yourself. You don't have someone to attract your attention, so you pretty much can do anything you want. Eating unconsciously, start developing bad habits and addiction, or spending too much on retail therapy. You might not aware of your own condition but then when it's too late, you might need a serious help like 30-session with personal trainer or even worst. Being single doesn't mean you can throw it all away because of circumstances that didn't define who you were. You can't let life just happen to you and not aware of your own self.
You start questioning yourself
Being single for quite a long time makes you wonder if you're really good enough, if you're worth to be loved by someone. Don't think less of yourself for being single. Rather, this is the best time to build your self confidence. Focus on all the things that make you great, treat yourself to help you feel better about yourself physically, reach your dreams and be successful. When the time has come, you'd meet likeminded people and one of them probably your future lover.
We understand that being single is not easy especially when dealing with negativity inside your mind and around you. One thing you should always remember that love is not measured with your status: single or taken. You can be single and feel loved at the same time without having to be in a committed relationship. Show your love every day with yourself and everyone you love and who loves you is all that matters.
