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When you are still in the dating phase, whatever your partner does can be seen as sunshine, rainbows and flowers. No matter what his annoying little habits are – it doesn't take a lot of effort to brush them off. So, what if he chews with his mouth open, doesn't pick up after himself and parties a lot? All these things you may even find endearing in a way. But, the harsh truth is that there are some things that may be easier to brush off now, which later on in marriage end up turning into an actual problem.
Before you enter marriage it is important to take into consideration some of the subtle differences you and your partner have. Because it is often in the subtlety that you end up missing the signs that can let you know how your marriage might be.
1. He likes to go out a lot and you don't. Right now you might be thinking that it's fun to have a partner who likes to party a lot. But, in marriage his partying habits may not be so fun when you find yourself waiting for him to come home at 2 AM in the morning every single week.
2. Not picking up after his mess. This habit often gets brushed under the carpet because either you think he's being a typical guy or he will change once he lives with you. But, unless you like being the one in charge of cleaning up the household, you will end up nagging him to do it in marriage or being the one to clean up after his mess.
3. Always calling his mom for every, single, thing. This habit may be seen as sweet and endearing because who doesn't like a man that's close to his mom? However, when you are his wife and he still needs to hear his mother's opinion on everything you might end up feeling less important. Once you both are husband and wife, you should be the person he comes to for things.
4. He plays his computer games for hours and hours a day. You may love the fact that your partner isn't one to go out and party as he much rather prefers to play games at home. But, think about later on when you have children or need help with something while he is busy in front of the TV or computer screen. His love for his games might end up getting in the way of any quality time spent.
5. Displays of 'loving' jealousy. Seeing your partner get jealous can sometimes send a message that he cares. But, be careful about this one because if he has issues with jealousy right now then marriage will only multiply it. There is no such thing as 'loving' jealousy.
6. Subtle controlling behaviors. Your partner telling you not to wear makeup, to dress a certain way or to not be friends with certain people are not things you should be ignoring. If he has tendencies to control the little things you do right now then he will try to control the bigger things. You will certainly not find this habit endearing anymore.
The subtle habits listed above are only some of the things your partner may be doing right now, which may cause problems later on. Try and consider other things that you may be brushing off and talk it out with your partner sooner rather than later.
