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We all know the famous saying of 'love hurts'. We hear it in songs and we see it being played out in movies. We have been preconditioned into thinking that loving someone means getting hurt, that it isn't real love unless pain is involved, that our heart must be aching because what we have is the real deal. Well, we're here to tell you that this isn't so. Why? Because when a person has a perception that loving someone equals being in pain, the relationships they then end up in will always and forever will be the source of their unhappiness. It is very important to understand that love does not hurt. Pain is the last thing anyone would ever want to inflict upon someone they love. Love does not hurt. Loneliness hurts, rejection hurts, and losing someone hurts, but love doesn't hurt. Love isn't supposed to come with emotional, physical or verbal abuse, it simply cannot exist amongst any of these things.
Love does not hurt you. A person who does not know how to love hurts you. Do not allow people who do not know how to love you, change the definition of love for you. When you settle for less, you will get hurt. When you spend more time crying than you are smiling in your relationship, you will get hurt. Understand that it is not love that comes with pain but loving someone who is incapable of giving love in the first place.
Yes, you may feel sadness and pain every now and then in your relationship but the only reasons you should be feeling those emotions are when you are missing your partner, when your tears are tears of happiness, when someone or something is getting in the way of you being with your partner, and when you see your partner unhappy with something that's going on in their lives. These are the only reasons you should feel any pain. A person who truly loves you will never allow himself or herself to do something they know will hurt you. If for whichever reason the person you're with does something hurtful, the moment you communicate your feelings will be the moment they immediately try to change. That is love.
Change the perception that you may have from love being painful to love being all that is wonderful. Love is happiness, acceptance, joy, excitement, growth, passion and complete freedom to be yourself. Do not deprive yourself of the real deal when it comes to love. The moment we start believing that love does not in fact go hand in hand with pain is the moment we will settle for the best and only the best. And ladies, that is what all of us truly deserve.
