Photography: Heather Hawkins
Your best friend is someone who you can talk to. But when you're married, things change including your relationship with your best friends. There are rules to follow when it comes to marriage issues to talk to with your best friends. You have to know what to share and what not to share among your best friends about your marriage.
You can share about…
Your wellbeing
If you have health issues, a best friend is a good place to talk it out. If you're in a situation that makes you feel threatened like domestic violence and you need to talk to someone or ask for help, then your best friend is definitely a good start.
Your career
Stories about your career and what happened in your office are worth sharing with your best friends. It is good to have someone else, other than your husband, to share your aspiration in your career path and to have someone cheer you on from the sidelines.
Your household management
It's fun to share life-hacks from others. It's even better when it comes from someone you can trust like your best friend. She might know a thing or two about how to get rid of the stain from your newly-bought blouse and other stuff you probably haven't thought of. You can learn from her experience and she can learn from yours.
You should not share about…
Your relationship in detail, especially what goes on in the bedroom
The bedroom is a restricted zone where only you and your husband could enter. Don't tell your best friends all the details which including body parts, styles, etc. Don't even talk about how good he's in bed. They wouldn't want to know anyway.
Your financial situations
Don't brag (or complain) about how much money he's (or he's not) making. Your financial situation is confidential. If you really need help, go to a professional financial advisor instead. You'll get the information that you need. By keeping and keep your best friends away from you financial issue, they will respect you the way they always do.
Your family's secrets
There's a reason why it's called "family secrets" and that's because they should be kept within the family. Even if you consider your best friends to be a part of the family, they shouldn't have to find out. Let the skeletons stay in the cupboards.
