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There is something we enjoy about being with a 'bad boy'. It is the constant roller coaster of emotions they put us in that makes it impossible for us to feel bored. Bad boys are incredibly moody and unpredictable; always keeping us on our toes. This 'never knowing' what will happen next gives us a sense of excitement. The more a person is harder to get, the more we want them and will be willing to invest as much of ourselves as needed. This addictive aspect of the relationship is why it is often much easier said than for a person to leave a toxic relationship. As much as we want to – we simply find ourselves not being able to. Understanding that a lot of people struggle with leaving behind an unhealthy relationship, we along with several women who have gone through this themselves have compiled five helpful guides to help you detach yourself from jerks.
It doesn't get better: One of the many reasons we decide to stay is because we have incredible hope and faith that one-day things will somehow get better. But, the truth is that it will never get better, instead it may even get worse. The relationship you have right now is the preview of the future. Time will never give you what you already deserve today.
He will not change – at least not with you: We all want to be the girl that turns the bad boy into a good boy. We all want to be the one he changes his ways for. However, if he does not treat you 'the one' right now – he never will. It does not take a man that long to see the worth of a woman they love. If it is not you he wants to change for today, it will never be you.
If you stay you will keep getting the same result: Albert Einstein once said, "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". Staying in a painful relationship equals you getting hurt therefore leaving it will equal to less of that. It really is as simple as that.
Missing him does not mean anything: A lot of people mistake this feeling as a sign to get back together. It is no sign, it is simply yourself getting used to the change. You are in the process of grieving so let yourself be sad over the relationship and give yourself as much time as you need.
Get back to you: After having gone through a toxic relationship, you will need to refocus your energy on yourself again. This is where you self-heal and it is the best form of detachment. Do what you need to do to feel good again without him. You are the only person that can pick yourself back up – no one else. Remember that the process of detaching yourself from someone else will not be easy. Understanding that it is a process that takes time is what will help you get through it.
