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When someone is too honest in a relationship, it might stir up unnecessary arguments. The best example would always be if the pregnant wife asks her husband whether her old jeans makes her butt looks big, of course the 'right' thing for the husband to do would be to say no and that she looked as beautiful as she did on their wedding day. This is a perfect example of telling a white lie, not only to avoid arguments, but also to inject a little love, consideration and appreciation for our partner's feelings. If someone were never honest in the relationship, it would be very scary and detrimental too and the relationship is almost doomed to fail right from the start. So like everything else, we think it's important to approach matters like these with a touch of balance.
While honesty is the best policy, sometimes certain things or facts might be too hard for us to accept or swallow. That is why it is very typical in romantic comedies that a girl forces a guy to tell the truth, he does and then she turns around and slaps him and walks away, just because she couldn't handle the truth which she demanded in the first place. Think about what you're going to say to your partner. Try to play the scenario in your head (if you have time) and think of the consequences and how your partner would react to what you 're going to tell them. If you think its really necessary for your partner to hear the truth even though it's going to hurt them, then so be it, as long as you know what to expect and know how to handle the situation afterwards. If it's a trivial matter and you can do something to avoid a big fight, well, it's not wrong to consider it.
White lies should only be used in a harmless situation and to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. Like for example, when a guy sleeps with another girl, and he does not want to tell his partner, that's just plain old cowardly lying, therefore, we should all learn to tell the difference. If you think it will do more harm than good, do what you have to do. As at the end of the day, the best a human being can do is to take all the information at hand and using it to help us consider the possible situations that might turn up when we decide to tell the truth or tell a white lie in order to prevent any misunderstandings or hurt anyone's feelings.
