To have a boyfriend who can get along well with your friends is to have one of the most satisfying feelings. It's like having two great parts of your world coming together harmoniously as one. Doesn't that sound great? Unfortunately, in the real world, not everyone gets along with everyone else. Some of us even have a hard time getting our boyfriends in the same room as our friends. So, when this happens, what is the best way to handle it? Here are 6 ways to deal when your friends aren't your boyfriend's cup of tea:
1. Find out the real reason behind it
Ask your partner the exact reason behind the dislike he has towards your friends and ask yourself if the reason is valid. If he doesn't like them because of the way they treat you then maybe you're missing something. If your partner does not like them because he feels jealous of your friends and the time you spend with them, then look for signs of controlling behavior.
2. Do not let him control who you are friends with
Even if your partner does not like your friends, it still does not give him the right to tell you what to do and who to be friends with. When it gets to a point where your partner becomes controlling and making you feel guilty for hanging out with your friends or is even manipulating you into doing what he wants then this is a huge red flag. You deserve someone who will accept your friends regardless if it is not to his personal liking.
3. Tell him how you feel about it
If this really bothers you then talk to your partner about it and say what you would prefer to happen. Loving someone means making an effort to make things work not only with the person in the relationship but also with each other's family and friends. Talk it out until a solution is there to make things better for the both of you.
4. Create opportunities for them to spend time together
If they hardly ever meet or have the chance to get to know one another, then it would be a good thing to suggest having some hang out sessions together. You might at first need to be the mediator here in helping them find some common grounds.
5. Do not leave your friends for your boyfriend
Remember, your friends have been there for you for a long time and you love them for good reasons as well. The last thing you want to do is to ditch your friends just because your partner does not like them because of his own personal reasons.
6. Don't force things to work
You cannot force a friendship to happen just the same as you cannot force love. If at the end of the day your partner and your friends just simply cannot get along, then it might be best to leave them be. They don't have to like each other, but they should at the very least be civil and respectful towards each other. At the end of the day, if they can do this then that is all you can ask for.
