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In a relationship, there will be times where one party feels like he or she is doing a lot more, giving a lot more and loving a lot more than the other party. This feeling of 'injustice' usually is triggered from small fights or even small gestures where one party might feel less appreciated or they don't get the response or treatment they had expected before hand, which is why you would usually hear love gurus tell you to give all you can while expecting nothing in return, to achieve a fuller, happier life within you and for the relationship. (Being humans, we can try our best, but still have that certain expectation for the other party to reciprocate.)
Both guys and girls can and do take certain things for granted but today, we'll be taking a look from the guys perspective. This is where we'll observe the things that boyfriends do that might be taken for granted. Ladies, listen up, if any of these sound familiar and applicable to you, maybe you can do something nice for him too. It'll only help you and the relationship too, so lets take a look at the simplest of things that guys do for their partners that often goes unappreciated.
1. Getting the door
A lot of women complain that chivalry is dead and that gentlemen hardly even exist anymore. But you'll be surprised to find out that getting the door for you as you walk into malls, restaurants and even cars or taxis, a lot of time guys do indeed still carry out thoughtful actions such as that. There's no need for any medal giving but a "thank you" is always nice.
2. Safely driving to and from work
Imagine he has to wake up in the mornings when he could be sleeping or even doing his other stuff but just to get to see you and get you to work safely, he's willing to forego extra sleep or his me-time. And in the evenings when you're done with work, he has to quickly rush from his workplace to pick you up just so you don't have to deal with the traffic, people, dust, sun, heat, etc — you get the picture. You don't have to give a standing ovation, just don't yell at him when he comes late.
3. Paying for meals, dates, or shopping.
This is a rather tricky and sensitive topic for most people but it's the point that is most often overlooked by the ladies. Especially during the courtship period, girls, you should at least pretend to get your wallet when the bill comes. If he insists that he should pay, then say thank you and move on with it. If the relationship gets to a comfy stage, then it's okay if he pays for the meals as a sign or means to show that he's the one taking care of you. If he's the giving type, who's slightly more comfortable financially, then be sure to do something nice for him once in awhile. Or better yet, you surprise him with a treat to a special dinner or lunch or a small getaway trip. It doesn't have to be expensive at all. Just that the gestures and thoughts will go a long way, especially with guys.
4. Being thoughtful and checking up every once in a while.
There are plenty of guys who makes the first move by checking on their partner daily by saying good morning, or calling them just to say hi, checking if you've already had lunch, see if you need food or medicine when you're sick in bed at home or even just talking to you till you fall asleep. When guys do this, they are genuinely concern with your well-being and see if you need anything. If your guy is doing one of these things (if not, all), please show him more love, care and appreciation and do the same for him, for it'll strengthen the relationship further. We'd like to think of it as a vicious-cycle of positivity.
