Photography: Phil Chester
Society and traditions have always dictated men and women to be very distinct and very different in terms of their looks, functions, and duties in society, in homes and in the 'real' working world. We tend to have the stereotypical idea that men must always be tough, bold; they don't cry, they don't worry and they should act as if everything is going to be ok. Any big decisions or anything major, have to be handled by men, as seen in movies, dramas and also in today's political world. Women, on the other hand, need not worry about anything as long as there are men who are capable to handle the situation. They are also more often depicted as the gentler, kinder and more understanding sex since the start.
However, the world today has seen some significant changes. With the rise of stronger women, women are fulfilling their calling to be "the helper" of man, giving men the opportunity to exercise their emotions, accept that they do not need to be strong ALL the time, and to just be a human being.
A man is human, and like all humans, they go through different experiences and situations in life. They go through good times and bad, they can be happy and sad. They need to share it with someone, because "a burden shared is a burden halved" and who better to share it with than the woman he has decided to share his life with? Although it is common for a man to not want to burden his wife and family with his problems, he still needs an outlet where he can freely express his feelings. When he does come to his wife with his problems, he is looking for reassurance of her love and her support, making him a stronger man in facing his challenges.
The one thing that might worry most men in asking for help is that it might hurt his pride a little bit. While it is easy to blame ego for this, it's not totally the mans fault but it's the innate nature of being a guy to feel that way, with no offense sincerely intended. Keeping this in mind, if ever a man ever asks for help, his wife should never make it a big deal or make their men feel small because affecting his self esteem will only make things worse. A situation like that is already hard enough for him to try and reach out for help from his wife, but when it is responded negatively, it makes them feel worse and will affect their self worth on so many levels.
So here is a note for wives everywhere, be considerate when your husband is going through tough times, especially if he actually voices out and seeks help. When you help him, do it whole heartedly. He will appreciate the support and care and it will go a long way. It will also be nice to show a little appreciation for the man, as it will make him feel better about himself when things aren't going his way.
And a last word for all the men: we know that you will do as much as you can and the best that you can for the people you love and care, but please do not hesitate to reach out for help! You are never alone.
