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The society gives us a lot of mixed messages when it comes to sex. From "Wait until you find the one" to "Get frisky with as many as you can before settling down" to "Don't buy it if you haven't tried it". It can be very confusing for someone who wants to decide whether they should explore their sexual needs or to perceive sex as something more special. Before we get into the nitty-gritty of the truth about sex, let's first take a look at what sex really is.
Sex is a normal human instinct. It is an intimate physical contact between two individuals, which involves stimulation. It is a way for husband and wives to enjoy each other, to bond or connect with one another and to possibly produce offspring. However, our values and opinions about sex are usually influenced by the information we get from the media or from people we trust (such as parents, teachers, friends) or from our own experience. Because of us this, we all vary on how we perceive sex to be and how we would like sex to be in our lives. So, what is the big deal about sex? Why does it matter how we involve ourselves when it comes to it? After all, it seems that everyone does it. When we turn on the television, log on to the Internet or watch a movie, they seem to embrace the message that sex is just a basic bodily function as harmless as satisfying our hunger and thirst.
But is that really the case? Or have this idea on 'casual sex' actually has a negative influence on our souls and society? Sure, the idea of "Get frisky with 12 people before settling down" may work for some people, however the actual truth is that the majority of people are badly affected by casual sex more than they are aware of.
More often than not, the impact of "casual sex" isn't as casual as we imagined it to be. When we achieve "orgasm" our brain feels a great pleasure sensation and will release "feel good hormones" and also "bonding hormones", which happens when we do something exciting. When we do it, we want to do more of it. Sure, this sounds amazing. However, with great pleasure comes some risk. Sex before marriage will confuse our body and soul. It will prevent us from making the right evaluation about our partner before getting married. You will get married for the wrong reason - not because of his extraordinary qualities, not because you share the same vision for life, but only for sex. That wouldn't be something you can build on in a marriage.
Sex outside marriage will also confuse your spirit. On one hand, we know that we're not supposed to do it. On the other hand, it just feels so good. You might find yourself feeling guilty and ashamed. But sex isn't actually supposed to make you feel that way, because when sex is done properly and performed in a marital setting, it will be a beautiful thing. Sex bonds you with your partner. However, when you have sex, outside of marriage, with multiple partners even, you are like a tape that has lost its stickiness for having stuck itself on too many things. This will be a problem when you get married later because you won't be able to stick yourself on to your partner. On the other hand, when you wait, you will be proving your commitment to your future spouse. When you are committed, you will save the best for him in marriage. We are sexual beings. Yes, that is true. And to have a sexual urge is a very natural thing, but it doesn't mean that we need to fulfill it whenever it hits us. Don't be fooled and don't cloud your judgements when it comes to sex. Instead, believe that when it comes to sex, real love waits.
