We all know how stressful it can be to plan our wedding. With all the help that we can get it can still sometimes feel overwhelming. Usually, the stresses we feel are from our own expectations of how we want the wedding to be and to look. However, when we are not only burdened by our own expectations but by other people's expectations as well, that can bring us stress on whole other level.
One of the people around us that would often have a lot to say or would want quite a lot of involvement in the wedding planning is our mother. Granted, that some of us may even find our mother's involvement to be important and something that we would appreciate whole-heartedly. However, what happens when her involvement becomes borderline 'meddling' or in other words intrusive? What may initially seem like a wonderful chance for us to bond with our mother can sometimes end up becoming the very reason we want to go crazy.
How do we then handle a situation like this? How can we deal with our interfering mother without fighting, hurting feelings or causing permanent damage to our relationship? Below are a few tips on how we can continue with our wedding planning, keeping ourselves as well as our mother happy while maintaining everyone's sanity.
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Get the financial things out of the way first
Before we even start planning our wedding, it is vital that we have a sit down with our parents as well as our partner’s parents about the finance side of the wedding. We need to figure out together and decide who will be paying for what and for how much. The outcome of this ‘meeting’ will let us know how big or how little involvement our parents or in this case our mother will have in our wedding planning process. If our parents are the ones paying for the wedding or if they are investing in a large amount, they will more likely have the final say in the decision-making process, whether we may like it or not. If we fear that our mother might use this as an excuse to be intrusive then it is important to discuss how involved she wants to be. This would be our chance to know upfront if there will be an issue with our mothers meddling or not to begin with.
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It is never easy to feel torn between wanting our mother's involvement while at the same time feeling like her involvement is too much. But, as long as we remember that our mother is doing this out of the goodness of her heart and that we too want her help in some ways, then this sticky situation can always be resolved.
