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Ladies, don't you find it frustrating sometimes when it comes to interacting with men? You could spend all day trying to give your partner hints and signs that you want something from him and yet he will still be completely oblivious to what is going on. You end up trying to give bigger and more obvious hints in order for your partner to notice and yet more often than not he won't which, will leave you feeling even more frustrated. Let's face it – it can be a bit of a nightmare trying to get your partner to notice signs you are giving. It is like a bad cycle that will never end until you actually say something directly to your partner about what it is that you have been trying to say.
Why is it that men are just completely clueless when it comes to picking up on what their women want? Well, it all boils down to one of the fundamental differences between men and women, which is that women are far more sensitive when it comes to picking up emotional cues than men are. It usually does not take a lot of effort for women to be able to notice certain gestures or behaviours that imply someone's emotional state. Due to their sensitivity of emotional cues they, in turn, expect their men to be able to have the same ability. When in reality men are simply less sensitive and therefore less able to immediately know what their partner may or may not need. This isn't to say that your partner will never pick up on your emotional cues; but he will most definitely need your help in doing so.
Due to this difference, you cannot expect your partner to 'pick up' on these signs and hints that you may be giving because to him it won't translate to anything. Signs and hints to men are foreign concepts and cause them to feel confused more than anything else. So, instead of complaining or feeling frustrated that your man is not getting what you are trying to tell him – the best thing to do is to actually say something to him in a clear and concise manner. As much as you would like your partner to be able to know everything you are thinking without you having to tell him anything, unfortunately, that will just not be possible. To get what it is that you want from your partner simply, communicate directly to him regarding how you are feeling or what you are thinking as well as any expectations or wishes you may have for your partner.
Keep it as simple as possible – no hints, gestures, signs or codes, they will only go unnoticed and cause you to feel exhausted. The more clear-cut you are with what you want the more your partner will actually be able to do something about it. It will save you a lot of energy and it will also save him a lot of time trying to 'figure it all out'. It's a win-win situation!
