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When we are in relationships, we would expect other people to respect the commitment we share with our partners. To understand that you simply do not pursue anyone who is in a relationship with someone else. However, in reality this boundary isn't always respected or taken seriously. There are some women out there who will gladly pursue your partner without any feelings of guilt or remorse. With this in mind, we did our research and conducted an interview with several women who say they only date men who are taken. Although this interview was honestly very difficult for us to do, we felt that the information given was powerful. We have chosen to share with all of you one interview that was particularly interesting, but for the respect of her privacy, this interview will be anonymous.
Q: What do you find so attractive about men who are taken?
A: To me, if a man is taken that means he is worth being with. And I really don't want to be with anyone that no other girl is interested in – it would be a complete turn off for me.
Q: Doesn't it bother you that they have a girlfriend or wife?
A: Not at all. I don't ever really think about the person they are with because it's just not a priority of mine. They don't care about me so I don't see why I should.
Q: You don't feel guilty or think what you're doing is wrong?
A: Well, no, otherwise I wouldn't be doing it in the first place. I just see it as a personal preference of mine. It's more fun for me to get a man's attention when he's already taken – it makes it more challenging.
Q: How would you feel once you'd get what you want?
A: If the guy ends up having an affair with me, it feels like I've won. Like, it must mean that I am incredibly worth jeopardizing his relationship over and that makes me feel good about myself.
Q: Would you say a lot of girls feel the same way you do?
A: Definitely. There are a lot of girls out there like me – but they probably won't admit to it. It's not really something you tell everyone about even though I don't really see anything wrong with it.
Q: What would you do if another girl pursued your partner?
A: I wouldn't like it. I don't think my partner should be hanging out with girls anyway. But, again that doesn't really stop me from doing what I want.
So, now that you know of these women, how can you 'prevent' them from jeopardizing your relationship? Worrying about every single woman that approaches your partner or controlling who he sees or where he goes will only backfire. Instead, it is best to invest in the trust you both have between each other. The only thing we have control over is how we treat our partners and as long as we have given trust, love, respect and acceptance – the rest is up to them.
