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Summer is the best time of the year to be around with people and date them. The weather promotes more activities for socializing, where you can attend lots of seasonal functions such as beach trips, BBQs parties, outdoor weddings, firework viewings, camping trips, and road trips. There are more opportunities, as a result, to meet more 'friend of a friend' or even an attractive stranger. At that time, everyone seems happy and relaxed that you probably will fall for one guy who has good sides of summer.
The idea of a summer fling is rather fun for some of us because it can be a lot easier to idealize romances that have a built-in time limit or geographic complication so you can keep things casual and commitment-free. There are also so many exciting dating ideas beyond boring dinner and movie dates. In a summer fling, you don't need to keep your guard up or play hard to get. It's all about having fun and trying out something new. You are not setting the same mindset like you used to when seeing someone new in normal circumstances. But have you really met someone to keep forever? Yes, you can meet your fling when it's warm and happy, but are you sure that he'll be around when it gets cold outside?
When a fling is good, deeper feelings might emerge. Most of us don't start summer fling with "this-is-my-future-spouse" mentality. Summer is a good period to trying out relationships and a whirlwind romance in summer could turn into a serious relationship. If the relationship is good, it is not going to end at the end of summer, but you cannot rush everything and expect to announce the wedding date by the end of the fall the same year you met him. People are different when they're on vacation because they're happy, free, and relaxed. But if you think that that's what marriage is all about, you're sadly mistaken, because marriage is nothing like a vacation.
So, how do you know that the 'hot guy' is actually your future soul mate? There's always a probability for you to step into a more serious relationship, you just got to pay more attention to your standards rather than just being happy you've met someone to go out with. You need more time to get to know each other. Go and have a lot more post-summer dates, explore everything about him. See all the bad sides too, not only the good sides. Don't rush the marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know each other. While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important (and in a summer fling, you could only rely on these two, right?), choose character first. It is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love because sometimes we forgot the important character traits to look for in a future life partner. The idea of falling "in love" should never be the sole reason for marrying someone.
