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To know whether you are truly ready for marriage, you must have a good understanding of marriage. Why do people get married in the first place? According to a credible survey, people marry for a number of reasons, among which are to have sex, to get a life partner, to be loved, to provide a home for the children, to be socially accepted, to gain financial advantage, and to feel safe and secure.
Can these reasons be fulfilled even without marriage, though? Yes, in fact, they can. So, why do people still choose to marry? Why do YOU want to marry? Let us take you through understanding marriage a bit better.
Why are you getting married?
If you have to talk yourself or your partner into marriage then no, neither of you are ready to be married.
If you are marrying to escape or avoid something, don't do it.
If you simply have always wanted to be married (and the person you are marrying is second in the priority list to getting married) then please, do not do it.
These are not good enough reasons for you to marry someone. The right reason to marry is in fact to fulfill your deepest desire for a compatible or suitable partner and to procreate. It is about knowing that you are ready for a life long commitment with someone you have chosen to be with for the rest of your life.
Are you ready to be a compatible / suitable partner?
Being a compatible partner means being able to compromise, to empathize, to understand, to have an open heart and an open mind to your partner and to be good at forgiving your partner's mistakes. Yes, we would love all of these things from our partners, however, are we even ready to give the same back? It takes two to make a marriage work. One person cannot always be the one giving because eventually their fuel will run out. Be the partner that you would want your spouse to be and treat them the way you would want to be treated yourself. There is no room for pride, ego and selfishness in marriage.However, if you are ready to give without expecting anything in return then you are ready to be married.
Are you ready to commit?
Unlike courtship or dating, marriage is forever. There is and should not be any turning back. The word 'forever' is what couples often look over very easily. In order to make a marriage last there must be commitment or it will easily fall apart. When two people are not truly committed to one another, they always give themselves two options to handling issues, which are to find a solution or to 'call it quits'. This option to give up whenever things get tough is definitely a no go in marriage if you want it to succeed. The only option you and your partner should have when things are not great is to fix the problem, any other option aside from that means that commitment never existed.
It is important to understand what marriage is all about before stepping into it with the promise of 'for as long as we both shall live'. It is a big life decision that should not be taken lightly, which is what makes it that much more special. So, before you decide to walk down that aisle, ask yourself these questions again, and listen to the answers you have, for they will give you the indications of whether or not you are truly ready for marriage.
