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We know that most girls (we're not saying, most, not every), when faced with a problem, in let's say, a relationship, like to talk their way to a solution. They know that their girl friends will always lend an ear, provide a shoulder to cry on, and be their entire support system. However, what they usually don't take into account is the way they share their problems that might be slightly biased, hence painting the wrong picture of the entire problem, thus leading to an inaccurate solution. This is most likely to happen when a problem is discussed with someone who isn't present at the 'scene of the crime'.
People outside the relationship can't possibly judge accurately what your partner is really like and will almost always be biased towards siding you no matter what, because that's what friends do. Additionally, people have the tendency to express the things that is done unto them rather than owning up to their actions which might be the root cause of the problem in the first place.
So, this is how guys see it. While we understand that your friends will feel much appreciated when you take their advice and concerns into serious considerations, and you will feel better after talking the problem out, the problem is still between you and him. If you ever find yourself with a relationship problem, remember that you and him are the best people to solve the problem. We really don't mind getting a new perspective or an advice to seeing the problem from a new angle, but that should only remain as an advice. Ultimately, the two people in the relationship should make the decision on how to go about it.
Guys, on the other hand, don't like to kiss and tell. We will only share our problems with a friend when the situation really calls for it. Otherwise, we just try as much as we can to figure things out for ourselves or just suck it up and move on. That is why you'll never hear us sharing too much information. However, we try to keep our minds open for suggestions so that we can make the relationship work.
So ladies, when it comes to sharing about our relationship with your friends, share things and issues that are really important. When you do, please be fair, stay on point and make sure you do not paint a different picture of your partner as this will only make your friends have a feeling of dislike or resentment towards him when in fact he might be doing his very best. This will only make your struggle of siding him or your friends more complicated and harder and can only contribute to a rockier, unhealthy relationship.
