Photography: Katelyn James
You're getting married or perhaps you have recently tied the knot to the love of your life. Now, a relationship with the in-laws is inevitable. While you may have heard horrifying stories about the "in-laws" in general, you can actually still have good relationship with them, if you intentionally try to build one. When it comes to the in-laws, mothers are usually more open towards new relationships. But when it boils down to the man of the house, that's when it can get a little nerve-racking. He might be more inquisitive and more daunting as he checks if you're worthy enough to take care of his son or daughter. But as you will or have made him part of your extended family - permanently - here are some tips you can do to show him the respect that he deserves and get on his good side:
1. Show him some respect. There's nothing that makes a man feel good about himself more than being respected. Even if you do not share the same views on some things, agree to disagree with him gently and respectfully.
2. Take a good care of his son or daughter. A father has always assumed the role of the family caretaker. In letting go of his son or daughter, he wishes to see that his children are in good hands. He will feel so much better if he knows that his children are well taken care of and living a good life.
3. Take care of his family. Nothing means more to your father-in-law more than his family. By showing him what a loving and caring person you are to his wife and children are how you get his heart for sure.
4. Visit him often. Spend time with him. Show that you care about what's going on in his life. Include him in special celebrations and allow him to be a part of your life as much as he wants you to be a part of his.
5. Get to know him. A great way to learn about him is through his children. Find some common grounds with him. If you have an interest in the same thing, that you can't be all bad. However, if you don't share the same interests, be open-minded to understand why he enjoys what he does. It's also useful to know what he dislikes so to avoid any unintentional offense.
6. Be grateful for him. It might not be the easiest thing to do, especially if he makes things difficult for you. But remember that, if it weren't for him, the wonderful person you want to spend the rest of your life with wouldn't even exist and you owe him a huge debt of gratitude.
Just like any relationships, your relationship with your father-in-law might not always be a breeze. You might hit some bumpy roads and find yourself in a disagreement. If you can't get along, be sure to openly discuss the issue with your spouse. You also might want to get the good graces of your mother-in-law. Someone more open and welcoming like her can be a wonderful ally.
