Planning a wedding is so much more than just picking the gown or choosing the flavor of the cake. You and your future spouse will be dealing with budgeting, handling family problems, making big decisions, also solving other internal conflicts. The truth is, you can also see this process like a marriage simulation. So, pay close attention, because you will be getting lots of relationship lessons from this experience, ones that you can implement to your married life later with your spouse. Here are some of the things you can learn:
1. Budget planning
As husband and wife, the two of you will combine both of your assets, incomes, expenses, and savings. Wedding planning is a great way to learn about each other's financial situation and habits. Start by being open when making a wedding budget plan; tell each other how much you can spend and how much is your limit. Then you have to be transparent about the wedding expenses, do not hide or lie about it to your partner. The same goes as in married life; you should never lie about or hide your money, debts, or spending from each other.
2. Compromise
Because marriage is all about compromises between 2 individuals, wedding planning is a great place to start practicing. When you and your spouse have two opposing ideas about the wedding decoration, catering menus, or the song playlists, try to meet each other halfway. Discuss and compromise until you find a way that will make both of you happy. This skill will be handy in your married life because after all, you are two different persons that may not always agree all the time. By being able to compromise, you won't be divided by those differences.
3. Task delegation
When you're sharing a household with your spouse, the daily chores and tasks should be handled by the two of you instead of being burdened to one person only. That's why you should learn how to delegate those tasks between the two of you. Starting at wedding planning, you should divide the duties and not trying to do everything yourself. For example, you can deal with the decorator and florist, while he's picking out the favors or planning the honeymoon. By sharing these workloads, both of you are responsible for the event, also for your home in the long run.
4. Problem-solving
You might be an independent woman who used to solve all of your problem yourself, but when you're married, you should also consider your spouse's opinion. You should also feel like you can lean on him to find a solution together. Just like marriage, planning a wedding usually comes with its own challenges and obstacles. Learn to sit down, analyze, and communicate together to try to resolve every difficulty as a team.
5. Dealing with family
Marriage usually merges two families, so the wedding planning stage is a great place to start getting familiar with his family dynamic and vice versa. Try your best to blend in and start including each other in both families. When there's a problem with one of the family members, try to consult one another and support each other, so none of you would feel left out or unwelcomed. This way, when there's a family drama arises when you're already married, you'd know how to handle it based on your experience in the early phase.
6. Not expecting perfection
When you're trying to visualize your dream wedding, it's easy to get lost in the process. You might be focusing on finding the perfect dress or booking the most popular vendors, but one thing you should know is that there's no such thing as a perfect wedding. Don't stress or turn into a Bridezilla; you should prioritize and be willing to compromise instead. Remember that the most important thing is, you're getting married to the love of your life. The same goes with married life; it won't be a perfectly smooth ride. Sometimes, you and your husband will face challenges, got into an argument with each other, or feel like nothing's right. But you should try to enjoy the ups and downs. Instead of expecting a perfect marriage, be grateful that you're spending the rest of your life with the one you love. Whether in planning a wedding or being married, learn to laugh it off when there's something that goes beyond your plan. That way, you'll find happiness even in bad times.
